It seems fitting that on my 35th birthday I should write about National Happiness Happens Day – which was actually Friday but is being celebrated all month long.
I’ve learned over the years that true happiness is more than simple contentment and less than unadulterated bliss. It’s not about those moments of euphoric joy but more about being able to find true pleasure in your daily life. This is how I know I am happy.
Like most working parents, my day is broken up into pretty routine chunks. And I think the key to happiness is being able to look forward to each of those portions of time. Of course, there are daily tasks no one really loves, like taking out the garbage or a rush hour commute. But I think the key is finding the joy in each segment of the day.
I generally wake up pretty excited to start the day. I look forward to my first cup of coffee and getting the kids out the door to school so I can hit the gym. And then, crazy as it may sound, I actually enjoy the gym. That’s why it’s so important to find a fitness routine that you actually like.
I also enjoy my work, even though it can be thankless, exhausting, and riddled with insecurity as a sole business owner. I look forward to opening my emails every morning and seeing what lies ahead for the day. And I know how lucky I am to be doing work that I feel passionately about.
And, of course, I look forward to spending time with my children – and equally forward to putting them to bed so I can veg out with an hour of bad television and homemade Vitamix ice cream.
I try to remember that “comparison is the thief of joy” and not dissect everything that is “wrong” with my house, my body, my family. And that is easier said than done. But what makes me secure in my happiness is knowing that I look forward to each part of every day. And when those days include miserable tasks like taking the kids to the doctor I try to find a way to add a brightside – like ice cream or even a really good iced coffee.
I don’t think any of this is sage advice and I don’t expect to earn any accolades as a “happiness guru.” But this is how I have found overall happiness at 35, complete with bad days and even really bad weeks. I’ve stopped looking for euphoric joy or settling for status quo contentment. Happiness, for me, is about always looking forward to the next thing, even if that means spending more than I should at Starbucks.
You can celebrate #HappinessHappens all month long by following @HappyFamily. It’s sure to make you smile!
Disclosure: This is a sponsored post written by me on behalf of Happy Family Brands